It’s getting to that time of year when the internet starts filling up with posts about New Year’s Resolutions – which puts a lot of pressure on a person. What is the perfect resolution that you can actually stick to? We’ve all done the go to gym and lose weight ones, eat less ones, the work harder ones, save more money, the list goes on. Here are the actual problems with making a New Year’s Resolution.
One thing wrong with resolutions is that they are always negative. Stop smoking. Stop eating chocolate. Don’t stay up late. It sounds good on the surface but these are all things we think we should be doing, rather than things we want to do. Constantly thinking words like “Stop” and “Don’t” act negatively on the mind and set you straight on the track to failure.
Resolutions have the tendency to make you feel less-than, because it makes you feel like there is something you don’t have and now aspire to in the future. They emphasize the gap between where you are and where you feel like you should be, and this is how making resolutions can actually hurt your self-esteem. Why not stop and enjoy life where you are? The real value in life is in the experiences along the way, not the end result. The best way to make goals is to break them down into realistic and achievable steps, not immediately jumping to the end product. Otherwise the inevitable failure of not keeping your resolutions will make you feel even less worthy.
Another problem with resolutions is that we make them on the spur of the moment when, let’s face it, we’ve normally had a few too many at our New Year’s Eve party. They lack any real motivation or commitment and have very little thought behind them. What you really need to change your life is something more fundamental and important to you. This is something that can only come from inside of you, what matters to you, and it doesn’t have to be midnight on New Year’s Eve for you to take that step. Why wait for one particular day to make a decision, when there are 364 other equally great decision-making days available to you?
Don’t wait for New Year’s Eve to make the resolution to be better. Life isn’t about making half-hearted decisions in the heat of the moment. Truly confident people make decisions based on fact and make choices according to what matters to them. They make positive choices, such as to start being happier, to approach everything they do wholeheartedly or maybe decide to just slow down and smell the flowers every now and then.
If you want to make a change in your life, jump into it with both feet. Don’t wait for the last day of the year to turn things around: start right now.